Men are visually stimulated

Marriage Tip : Men are visually stimulated. No matter how much your man loves you, he wants to come home to a sexy wife. As wives it’s easy to get comfortable and forget your sexy.. While you get comfortable the chick on the job is looking like “Come take me now” in that tight skirt. lol… checking for your man.. Step your game up and get your sexy back.

Your sex life is one of the most important parts of your marriage.

Have sex with your husband as often as he is willing. So many wife struggle in this area. They punish their husbands and avoid sexual contact with them. Ladies please don’t do this, because it only pushes them away. Some men will shut completely down and lose all respect for you and began to look for other means to satisfy his desires.

Keep him interested by wearing sexy jogging suits around the house instead of a grandma nightgown.lol  And ladies please wear sexy nighties to bed. Even if its a t-shirt, cut the back out or something. No matter how creative you need to be, just make sure it says ” You are invited to sleep with me” written all over it. Do your part!

There are times when the chemistry in a relationship can seem dull or non-existence, but it’s about keeping your man together. I know it’s not a topic that most women don’t want to discuss, but it’s time to! Go home tonight, cook him a romantic dinner and fulfill his every desire!

Get your sexy baby!

Coach Kellie

Happily ever after is possible!

Happily ever after is possible! Change your words, change your life! Choose these words in the tough times:
“We get along”
“We love each other”
“We can talk”
“I need you baby”
Speak life..Speak life, SPEAK LIFE! ‪#‎coachkellie‬‪#‎stayfocused‬#marriageworks ‪#‎love‬

Miss Independent

Have you ever heard the song “Miss Independent”?

The songs talks about his  woman having her own thing and how she handles her business and don’t have to depend on him for anything. Although I love the song and beat, my prospective of the lyrics have changed a bit. I always dreamed to have my own of everything. With or without a man. My mother,grandmother and all the older women I knew told me the same thing “make your own money and don’t depend on a man for nothing”. So from the time I was 13 years old to about 30, that was law.

When I grew old enough to date I decided to go to the movies with this young man, I guess I was about 16 or so. When we got to the ticket booth he paid for himself and began walking towards the theatre. Lol so I followed assuming he had taking care of my fare, ecspecially since in the 90,s the average movie ticket was $5.

I had no money to pay for myself so my friend’s date paid for me. Once we entered in the movies he came over, sat next to me and had the nerve to place his arm around my shoulder. That was the moment that confirmed every word my mother and aunts always said about men. I vowed to never be in a satiation where I would ever depend on a man again.

About 7  years later, I got married and through I committed to serve and obey my husband.. In my heart I never vowed to leave” Miss independent” she was right there beside me just in cause it didn’t work out. Trust me, I love my husband and I believed in him to take good care of me.  The truth is my thinking was at the level of prior information (bad information).

My husband would go to open the door and I would open it first. ” I’m not handicap, I don’t need a man to open my door”. I don’t need no man to pay my bills. I’m a strong black woman! And I don’t want him to leave me dependent and lonely. Lol The spirit of fear was seriously on me. I had seen so many broken relationships in my life, church, and family. But God! He gave me God’s best BUT I was too blinded by fear to see his heart towards me.

My husband is so awesome. He takes great care of me and our children. I truly had nothing to fear. He proves his faithfulness to me and our family. But whatever you focus on will expand.  And when you haven’t surrendered your past fears, hurts, and negative events to God even your blessings can be sabotaged by poor thinking.

It took a long time for me to realized that that wasn’t the order of God. Builing a wall of protecting so that you won’t be hurt or disappointed can be a set up/distraction.

With stinking thinking, I had no expectations of ever depending totally on my husband. Ever! But God. I will trust the God in him and because the heart of the king is in the hand of the Lord, I know GOD has my back and moreover it would not be wise to worry.  One of my favorite scriptures reads take no thought for tomorrow, wouldn’t God feed the birds? So why should we worry about things that God has under control.  Wow! I’m excited and walk in freedom!  Glory to God!

Almost 2 years ago release the title “Miss Independent”and surrendered it to God and told God sorry for not trusting him. And now I trust and rely on the Man God blessed me with. ~Coach Kellie