Dreaming beyond Reasoning

PhotoGrid_1397191819722In 2007 God gave me the name SuccessfulLooks. I filed for incorporation not knowing what I would do with it. I begin mixing hair products in my kitchen because one of my clients had a nasty virus that the doctors couldn’t heal. I mixed up something up and it went away. I decided to dedicate the time to research and found companies that I could buy bottles and ingredients from.  A few years later I decided to start a simple lipgloss line and grow it to a full line of of health and personal care line. Today I have distributors from here to Florida that believe in my company I started with nothing.. I never imagined having a business… let alone a dedicated team of women who would help my take it global. I’ve sent Successfullooks as far as South Africa to Europe. God is faithful! Just 10 years prior I was homeless living in a hotel on Allentown road, washing my clothes in a sink. But God. Please trust the process folks! Stay focused on what God tells you to do. Poeple may look at you and laugh.  Remember God gives you more along the way then he does when you start out. So start somewhere!

Love you ALL. #coachkellie #determination #embrace #your #passion www.coachkelliespeaks.com

Miss Independent

Have you ever heard the song “Miss Independent”?

The songs talks about his  woman having her own thing and how she handles her business and don’t have to depend on him for anything. Although I love the song and beat, my prospective of the lyrics have changed a bit. I always dreamed to have my own of everything. With or without a man. My mother,grandmother and all the older women I knew told me the same thing “make your own money and don’t depend on a man for nothing”. So from the time I was 13 years old to about 30, that was law.

When I grew old enough to date I decided to go to the movies with this young man, I guess I was about 16 or so. When we got to the ticket booth he paid for himself and began walking towards the theatre. Lol so I followed assuming he had taking care of my fare, ecspecially since in the 90,s the average movie ticket was $5.

I had no money to pay for myself so my friend’s date paid for me. Once we entered in the movies he came over, sat next to me and had the nerve to place his arm around my shoulder. That was the moment that confirmed every word my mother and aunts always said about men. I vowed to never be in a satiation where I would ever depend on a man again.

About 7  years later, I got married and through I committed to serve and obey my husband.. In my heart I never vowed to leave” Miss independent” she was right there beside me just in cause it didn’t work out. Trust me, I love my husband and I believed in him to take good care of me.  The truth is my thinking was at the level of prior information (bad information).

My husband would go to open the door and I would open it first. ” I’m not handicap, I don’t need a man to open my door”. I don’t need no man to pay my bills. I’m a strong black woman! And I don’t want him to leave me dependent and lonely. Lol The spirit of fear was seriously on me. I had seen so many broken relationships in my life, church, and family. But God! He gave me God’s best BUT I was too blinded by fear to see his heart towards me.

My husband is so awesome. He takes great care of me and our children. I truly had nothing to fear. He proves his faithfulness to me and our family. But whatever you focus on will expand.  And when you haven’t surrendered your past fears, hurts, and negative events to God even your blessings can be sabotaged by poor thinking.

It took a long time for me to realized that that wasn’t the order of God. Builing a wall of protecting so that you won’t be hurt or disappointed can be a set up/distraction.

With stinking thinking, I had no expectations of ever depending totally on my husband. Ever! But God. I will trust the God in him and because the heart of the king is in the hand of the Lord, I know GOD has my back and moreover it would not be wise to worry.  One of my favorite scriptures reads take no thought for tomorrow, wouldn’t God feed the birds? So why should we worry about things that God has under control.  Wow! I’m excited and walk in freedom!  Glory to God!

Almost 2 years ago release the title “Miss Independent”and surrendered it to God and told God sorry for not trusting him. And now I trust and rely on the Man God blessed me with. ~Coach Kellie