Happy Monday!  My current read is the Total Forgiveness Experience by R.T Kendall.

Last year it felt like I lost so many friends, but after much prayer and fasting God revealed the “WHY”. Often times we think and point the finger at everyone else, but the fact of the matter it’s us. I know it hurts to hear that.  I can admit that I  had undeveloped areas in my  life that cause me to fail in relationships time after time.

I can honestly say I have  100% made the area my #1 priority to change.

We can’t help and heal the world if we are broken ourselves.

Take the opportunity to unplug for everything and fix the undeveloped areas of your life!

What happens when we don’t forgive?

  • Prideful
  • Angry
  • Resentful
  • Bitter
  • Vengeful
  • Hostile
  • Judgmental
  • Lonely
  • Fearful
  • Joyless
  • Defensive
  • Exhausted
  • Blaming
  • Irrational
  • Violent
  • Manipulative


Can you identify with any of these emotions?

I had a situation with a friendship where I was falsely accused of something. I couldn’t believe that person could lie on me for no apparent reason. What did I do to deserve this situation. My character was under attack and I was so hurt that it nearly broke me down. Not because I was guilty, but it was because the person who did it was a person who I personally gave value and weight in my life. It took everything in me not to lose my cool and want to revert to sinful ways. But because I know God and know that I did nothing intentionally wrong to that person, I decided to let God fight for me. He created in me a heart for people and often times I has been hurt because I allowed people to come into my life before checking them out first. Being nice is one thing but being someone’s doormat is not the will of God.

What to do next?

Invite God into the situation. He personally knows both parties.

Ask God to forgive you ,if there was any part that you contributed to the situation. Sometimes shutting down is a sin because it insulates and causes a divide in that relationship. Space is important ,but only for a season to collect your thoughts and comfort  the issue ( in love) for change. Insulation can ruin a covenant relationship especially  in a marriage. Be careful not to get missing and stop communicating.

Secondly, pray for them to see their part in the situation. The heart of the King is in the hand of the Lord. So don’t be afraid to ask for God’s help in the matter. Total forgiveness about you and it’s a process that should not be taken for granted.

Lastly, try not to share the situation with a weak or emotional undeveloped person. Please don’t go to that kind of person, because it won’t end well. I have been there and I tried to find comfort in the situation but after sharing my intimate feelings with an undeveloped person and they told me ” I would curse them out, Don’t let them get away with that, get even, don’t be stupid” Lord knows that didn’t make me feel any better. So every time I thought about releasing it, I felt “stupid” for letting it happen to me. But I promise you that I am Not stupid and as the bible states

I am with you and I will never leave you or forsake you, I am with you until the ends of the earth.

So If God is with me That’s all that we NEED..


Forgive and live in victory!


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